Desc: Welcome to my den, my reality, my world. I am a Goddess among men because I forced a shift to make it so. You can do that too, I’ll show you how. You’ll find that my world is superior to yours because I designed it myself, if you stay long enough you will be infected by my way of thinking and you’ll find your reality shifting. As long as you allow me into your head that is, you do want that, don’t you?
There was quite a mental buildup to this meeting for me. Ruby is EXACTLY my ideal woman: tall, long legs, curvy ass and piercing eyes. I knew I would be in trouble as I approached the door to her play space. She opened the door and let me in and immediately felt weak in the knees and knew I was in the presence of a superior woman when my eyes met hers. She had a look that bore right through me and she is exactly like her photos. I’m tall (6’2″) but here I a standing before a dominatrix who looks me dead in the eye. She is amazingly beautiful and captivating. Her makeup and hair was flawless. I was in her world and she was in control. I had no idea how deep this was going to go.
At this point I had no idea how long I was at her mercy and frankly I didn’t care if it ever ended. I was spend emotionally and physically. Ruby released me from her bench and allowed me to clean myself. Where I was given permission to look at her and touch (respectfully) when we sat down in the sitting area. Ruby got close to me and allowed me to cuddle with her. We talked for a long time as I was wrapped up with a stunning, beautiful dominate woman.
Ruby is amazing. She’s accomplished quite a bit for someone her age and my time with her was priceless. She was one of my best BDSM experiences in the 25+ years I’ve played. Ruby is an amazing mistress and will take you to places you not thought possible. The endorphin high and the emotional experience was something I had not previously achieved and, for that Mistress Ruby, I am grateful.
Until next time.
I’ve had the pleasure of spending time with Ruby on several occasions. Ruby is exactly who she appears to be – quite beautiful, intelligent, and devious in the best sense.
Ruby was my first foray into fetish, and this review covers the second meeting I had with her.
The second meeting was more of a fetish role-play session. I’m not going into too many details on this mostly because I think this type of encounter is so person specific that it wouldn’t do much good, but the time I spent with her were intense, exhausting, and exceeded all my expectations.
I would 100% recommend Ruby to anyone new to fetish – she was a great listener, very intuitive, and skilled at taking you places that you have not been in an amazing way.
I’m already looking forward to spending time with her again!
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One of the reasons I got into the hobby was to have some new experiences and recently I decided to try a fetish session. After looking at a few of the dominas here I decided to have Ruby guide me through this new experience and I could not have been more pleased by the result.
Scheduling and directions to her dungeon were clear and easy to follow which is always nice when dealing with the maze that Seattle can be. After the initial greetings we sat and chatted for a bit and this being my first time I was a bit nervous but decided I would follow wherever she led in the session to the best of my ability. What followed was an amazingly and surprisingly sensual experience that seemed to cause time to stop and provided me with a few new experiences that I won’t soon forget.
After I was untied we sat and chatted for a little bit more and I got ready to leave. During our conversation it came up that my shoulder had been bothering me for a bit and despite our session essentially being over she had me sit back down and massaged the area. This was an especially nice touch and was totally unexpected but did wonders and helped loosen it up quite a bit.
OK……so first off I have to say Miss Ruby completely and I mean completely drained me so don’t expect much from this review. She was super easy to schedule with, in call is very nice and she was super pleasant….when I was good. Great to talk with and pulled a lot out of me regarding dark things I fantasize about. At some point, I found my self bound and tied, hanging from her ceiling and being taken advantage of in ways I’ve only dreamed about. I quickly found out the right thing to do was tell Miss Ruby exactly what I wanted, needed and was thinking, denying what I was feeling or wanting was a big mistake. She completely drained me, I’d say go give her a chance, just be open and let her lead. The great part is, I am positive we only scratched the surface and Miss Ruby and I have a lot more work to do, well….mainly me but she’ll be along to teach and lead. Thanks for being who you are and leading me through an amazing evening Miss Ruby. I’m heading to bed with a big bottle of water to dream about the things I need you to do to me in our next session.
Probably the most intense session of any kind in my life, and definitely a session like no other. I will do my best to describe it, but trust me it was beyond words. If you are interested or you think you might be interested in things Ruby offers, you should see her. She has a way of reading people and giving them what they maybe didn’t know they wanted/needed. She is a very special person and I feel honored to think of her as a friend, if even in this limited and strange context in which we interact.
So some background. I have met Ruby on at least three occasions. First time was at her dungeon lair (see the review), second time was at an LOB event in which we made quite a scene by me taking orders on what exactly she wanted me to do to another LOB participant. So let’s just say Ruby and I get along pretty well.
Although I’m really a novice to BDSM and don’t consider myself that into the fetish, when Ruby suggested that during this session we explore it a little more, I was more than happy to do it. If Ruby suggested I change the oil in my car, I would probably get hard and do it.
She led me into one of her awesome play rooms and I was immediately mesmerized by the various kinky tools of her trade that hung on the walls. I wanted her to use all of them on me. She put a thick leather collar with metal rings around my neck, then matching leather cuffs on my wrists and ankles. When she secured my wrist cuffs to the table I struggled pleasurably against the tension. Soon my legs were tied down as well with just enough slack to thrash and struggle. When she clamped my ankle cuffs to a spreader bar, I knew I was going to be in for a good time.
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What can I say, I’ve been a bad boy.
Ruby is one of my favorite obsessions…I love her attitude and approach. She is very good at what she does and she genuinely seems to love what she does. This was my second time seeing Mistress Ruby and I again opted for a hypnosis session. After being hypnotized, I was bound and restrained and Mistress Ruby proceeded to push my limits for both pleasure and pain. She really has a knack of knowing just how far to go.
After our session ended, we talked about a number of things…she noticed that my feet were dry, so she pulled out her grooming kit and proceeded to give me a pedicure while we talked. She must have pampered my feet for about a half hour to 45 minutes. Who does that?!?!?
I would definitely recommend Mistress Ruby to any fetishists out there. She is truly one of a kind. My only complaint is that I found out she was in Portland in November and I missed her!! I hope to be able to catch her on her next trip.
Hey everyone, Happy December!
Winter has arrived and with it, time to work on projects. Between organizing work to be done on my place and getting presents for everyone I’ve had the time to work on a new FBST/FBSM website for myself! There, I posted a new photo set that is not available here! Go check it out! http://elleambrose.com
Here’s a teaser!
Hello all!
My boy and I will be visiting Portland, Oregon next Thursday and Friday for fun, adventure and debauchery! We’re taking appointments together and separately during those days.
If you have suggestions for a great strip club to visit, that would be wonderful!
I’m looking forward to making some new connections with folks down in PDX!
Cross posted from DommeDose.com
How to Achieve Happiness with Your Vanilla Partner as a Submissive
By Dominatrix Ruby Enraylls – http://www.rubylovesyou.com/
As a professional dominatrix, I speak with many men who have the desire to be controlled by a powerful (and often manipulating) woman. Unfortunately for these men, general society dictates that women should be subservient, docile, and obedient towards their male counterparts. As a result, submissive men often find themselves frustrated in marriages with women who, for all their wonderful qualities, aren’t taking control. These relationships don’t have to fail, and can end up being quite successful, and I’m going to provide a guide for you to get there in four possibly not-so-easy steps!
Step One: Determine What You Want
So, you want to give up control. What does that mean? I define control as the ability to affect, influence, or impact a situation, person, or thing directly and with intent. So, the desire to give up control is a desire for your partner to intentionally influence you. This means you’re asking them to lead you, dictate changes, make decisions and initiate interactions- At least, this is what control means to me.
It goes without saying that what control means to me and what control means to anyone else is probably different so before considering how to alter your relationship, you should make two lists: One list will have 5-10 actions, feelings or situations that make you feel submissive and the other will describe the inverse. These lists should help you figure out what control means to you and how you want to be submissive.
Although people don’t tend to neatly fit into categories, I’ve found that generally there are themes when it comes to the activities that someone enjoys; Often someone who likes doing service for their partner will also enjoy sexually pleasing their partner. Just as someone who enjoys having someone spit in their face will also usually enjoy being told how dirty and nasty they are. The main categories that submissive behavior and preferences tend to fall into seem to be fetish, service, masochism, sexuality, humiliation, degradation, behavior modification and power.
Fetish; An activity or preferred object or body part that is very much focused on such as a woman’s foot or smelling dirty panties. Service; Enjoying or wanting to do things for other people that make their lives better or easier, classically house work and menial labor such as data entry or organizing paper work. Masochism; Enjoying a painful, unpleasant or uncomfortable activity such as spanking or rope suspension. Humiliation; Seeking out situations or activities that produce feelings of inadequacy, shame, embarrassment. Degradation; Enjoying activities that make you feel dirty, bad, wrong, shameful, evil, slutty, disgusting or less than other people. Behavior Modification; Wanting to have someone control what you do, how you think, what you feel and what you want. Power; Wanting to feel powerless compared to someone else, to feel controlled or overwhelmed by them.
Obviously, each category is not mutually exclusive and often most people enjoy some activities that fit into multiple categories in different degrees of intensity. In my experience, the intensity experienced by someone submissive tends to range from enjoying a lifestyle 24/7 dynamic where the submissive is always submissive to experiencing a casual fantasy where they only want to be told to do something that they already wish to do. With all of that said, each submissive varies widely in their tastes, preferences and dislikes so even those that are categorically the same can be extremely different.
For example, I currently have two submissives who both enjoy service and providing me with care but both of them have different approaches to service: One of them likes to help me around the house by cooking, cleaning and doing other chores and feels at peace while he is taking care of physical tasks for me. The other however, doesn’t really enjoy doing physical tasks (especially cleaning.) She enjoys engaging in psychologically taxing tasks that contribute to me having more energy to better accomplish everything else I have to do.
Step Two: Determine What She Wants
Everyone falls somewhere on the D/s scale, whether they’re aware of it or not. Sometimes those inclinations are very fluid, other times they’re less so – it’s very similar to sexual orientation in that regard. It’s possible that your wife is just as submissive as you are (or more!), and just doesn’t want to be dominant, for the same types of reasons you don’t.
Does your wife like making decisions? Does she know what kink is? How does she feel about it? Is she open-minded? Being dominant over you will require your wife to make many choices for themselves and for you. If she hates decisions, it’s going to be very difficult to find a way where she’s happy controlling you. Similarly, if she hates the idea of kink and you try to manipulate her into dominating you, she’s probably going to be extremely upset if she finds out.
On the other hand, it’s very common for women to feel heard, considered, and empowered by their husbands. Being dominant does take some effort, but if it means an increased ability to get what she wants, it may be worth it for her. When I’ve instructed submissive men to offer control to their wives in the past, it has been met with joy. This is probably related to how they went about it and what control they relinquished, but more about that in step four.
Step Three: Decide On a Course of Action
At this point, you have most of the information you need to make a decision. Do you want to express your submission with your wife, or with a professional?
When making this decision, you first need to realize that your wife will never be the perfect dominatrix for you. A professional is there to provide you with a relatively uncomplicated fantasy interaction, within her own limitations. Because you have set an exchange rate with her, she’s more willing to conform to your desires. Because you’ve discussed limits and mutual interests, you’ll likely get a closer approximation of what you want. So (unless someone is lying), there’s virtually no chance of either person getting shortchanged in the arrangement. On the other hand, your wife is likely to have her own agenda (which is probably not “fulfill your fantasy so she can pay her bills”). She’ll have her own desires, her own needs, and her own wants. Those probably won’t align perfectly with yours, and that’s okay. Use the information you gathered in steps one and two to figure out how close you can get to what you want with your wife, and then make a decision about whether that’s close enough for you.
Even if your wife is submissively inclined, it may be possible for you to fulfill one another’s needs. You’ll both have to work for it, but if you’re willing to be creative and compromise it can work. Perhaps it means that you won’t get all of your fantasies met. Perhaps it means supplementing the D/s between the two of you with a professional. Perhaps it means exploring new ways to interact together. If she’s open to it, though, and you believe that getting your needs fulfilled within your existing relationship is the route you’d like to choose, step four has suggestions on how to make the transition into more control easier for her, and helping her see that domination isn’t scary, impossible, masculine, or gross.
Step Four: Offer Her Control (if appropriate)
The guiding principle here is that you want to create situations where you’re allowing your wife to direct and influence you. You want to set up an environment where it’s easy for her to lead you, initiate changes, and make decisions.
When initially giving control to a partner with whom you’ve previously been equals, it’s tempting to either simply say “I want you to control me.” or to give them explicit instructions for how they should control you. The former is overwhelming and intimidating for most vanilla women, and the second is counterproductive. It defeats the point of giving up control, and it’s likely to be rejected by a woman who will actually take control or accepted disdainfully as a command by a woman who doesn’t want to be in charge. Neither of those options are what you want, so don’t tell your wife to tell you to do something.
What do you do, then? The specifics will be different for everyone, but some good starting questions are “How can I make your life easier?” “What can I do to help you around the house?” and “What do you hate doing?” In addition to these questions, it would be a good idea to pay attention when you make decisions together or when you make decisions for the two of you. Common decisions that you may be taking for granted are what you are eating, what you are wearing, how something is done around the house, and who does what chores. When you notice yourself making such decisions, consider asking for her opinion. Eventually, she will become more accustomed to making decisions on your behalf and having that control over you will feel natural to her.
Although most highly visible models for how D/s relationships start involve the dominant asking for (or taking) control over the submissive, the inverse also happens. In fact, my experience has shown that relationships tend to be far healthier when the submissive gives control than when the dominant takes it. Anything taken by force walks the line of abuse, and by offering control before she asks for it, you’re mitigating one potential concern. Be aware, however, that she may not want the control you’re offering, and it also causes issues to force control onto someone who doesn’t want it. Ideally, you want to give your wife as much control as she wants to have and as much as you want to give. Keep in mind that those two values may not match up exactly, and that they will both be constantly shifting and changing. While that may sound undesirable, it allows you to learn and grow together. If something is constantly changing, it’s (hopefully!) becoming better and closer to the ideal for both parties.
But What About BDSM?
I understand that allowing your wife to make all the decisions isn’t exactly fetish-oriented. At the end of the day, you’re still doing service for a wonderful woman, and perhaps that’s enough. Introducing BDSM activities isn’t off the table, but you don’t want to force anything upon her. If she’s not open minded, if she’s uncomfortable with kink, or if she’s not comfortable taking the lead, you should probably leave BDSM and kink out of your relationship.
If you choose to introduce BDSM, I suggest mentioning something innocent very casually. Perhaps say something like “Have you ever used handcuffs on someone? I overhead someone at work talking about an exploit of his where he used handcuffs…” Alternately, if your acting abilities are such that you can seem surprised by it, you can “stumble across” some BDSM or fetish picture in a relatively innocent place (think Wikipedia) and ask what your partner thinks.
You want to seem curious or surprised when you bring it up, but you want to leave a believable out if your partner is disgusted. If she reacts strongly negatively, you want to be left in a situation where you can respond with “Yeah, the handcuff thing seemed weird to me, too. Why would he have done that?” or agree with her disgusted shock that Wikipedia had such perverse content. You don’t want to end up in a situation where your wife has to choose between obviously insulting your fantasies and expressing her true opinions.
In the event that your partner is interested in BDSM too, I suggest starting off very innocently; Crops, blindfolds, hand cuffs and the like. Introduce things slowly and really make her a part of your exploration by reading things together, watching videos together, shopping together, ect. Even if she isn’t initially interested in something, it’s likely that if you are and she’s open minded she’ll try it and like it or try it because you like it. The most important thing to remember is to have fun and make it into a bonding experience, if you do that it will have a positive outcome.
If you have any questions or comments, feel free to forward them to me at rubyenraylls@gmail.com
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