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A Lesson in Chastity Training

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Welcome to your first lesson in chastity training. You’re here because you want to learn how to be the perfect chastity slave for me and you know that my chastity training regiment will get you there. All you need is a little help or a little push to help you overcome any shortcomings, hesitations or temptations you may have. Allow me to guide you into your cage.

First off, you must prepare your body and your mind for me, this is crucial into getting into the right headspace. This will be a recurring feature of your training, so be sure to practice mindfulness regularly. You will thank me.

Helpful Hints

Be Patient
Relax and take your time
An Open Mind will Guide you to the exact place that Mistress wants you to go.
Take a practice photo

Supplies Needed

A Chastity Cage
A Pen
Paper
A Twitter Account

Extra Credit

If you wish to amplify your experience you can purchase an audio guiding you through the whole process of locking yourself in chastity for me and feeling its tight grip, my tight grip. Then the meditation and exploration on chastity, you will have the pleasure of my silky voice guiding you through your experience.

If you wish to have some product suggestions to help soften or improve the experience and offer deeper guidance, you can book a texting, emailing, skype or phone session with me here.

Give over Your Mind and Body to Domina Ruby

Place your device on, wiggle into it and feel it secure you tightly. Feel my control wash over you and sit down comfortably after you have fastened it around yourself. You will rest here and clear your mind for 5-15 minutes, make sure you are comfortable and close your eyes. Make the focus of your thoughts around your feelings about chastity and being in service to me. Allow your mind to relax and clear naturally, if it wanders allow it to but keep bringing it back to your thoughts of chastity and try to make note of where your thoughts wander to.

Don’t punish yourself for getting off task just simply correct yourself and clear your mind, this is the process I am teaching you- The art of focus, relaxation and devotion.

There is no excuse for not having at least 5 minute to do this, longer is better and you may find that being more comfortable makes it easier to focus. Being distracted is no excuse either for that is the whole point for this exercise- clearing your mind of distractions and focusing it.

After you sit write a tweet about your thoughts and take a photo of your chastity and a sign with a creative note expressing your devotion. Include the hashtags #femdom #RubyEnraylls #chastity #slavetraining #DominaRubyEnraylls #IwillObey

Leave your device on for the rest of the evening. (Unless you experience pain, if so remove it and document your failure.)

You have finished your first lesson in Chastity Training for Mistress Ruby Enraylls

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Guide to Urethral Sounding

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Urethral Sounding is a very popular medfet activity and due to its popularity in videos, its something that many people are curious about. The first question I am always asked is “does it hurt?” The answer should be “no!” As long as you use the appropriate lube, correct angle, adequate technique, good instruments and everything is sanitary- Sounding should NOT be painful. For that matter, catheterization really shouldn’t be either but plastic is harder to work with than metal but I digress. That’s why I threw away all of my silicone sounds.

In my opinion, soft skills like power exchange and humiliation play are much harder to master than hard skills like urethra sounding. This is because there is a simple set of rules and guidelines you can follow to achieve your goal. With soft skills, it gets a bit trickier. Let’s start with what you absolutely need to have in order to actually do urethral sounding- The gear.

The Gear for Urethral Sounding

What Urethral Sounds Should I Buy?

There are many models of sounds. For beginners, I recommend Double Ended Pratt urethra Sounds or Double Ended Hegar urethra sounds.  Rolled steel sounds are best, they are more expensive but they will last longer and you can run them through an autoclave or boil them. Sounds come either millimeters or french for sizing purposes. 1 mm is 3 fr. So a 6mm sound is also an 18fr. Typically sounds come in kits unless you are buying an unusual style but I wouldn’t recommend starting with that.

Individually Packaged Sterile Lube

Why individually packaged surgical lube? Simple. Once you open it, it is no longer sterile. That’s fine for other play but with sounding. You want to maintain as clean of a field as possible. Pretend that you are playing surgeon. When I am doing a sounding scene, I pay attention to order of operations- If there is any butt stuff, that comes last.


Cleaning Your urethral Sounds

The traditional way is boiling them or running them through an autoclave if you have it.
You want to have medical grade sealing sterilization pouches that fit your sounds, pop them in and boil them for at least 20 minutes.
Once they are done cooking, do not remove them from the package until you are ready to use them because you will break the sterile field.
However, many sounds are only coated and not solid pure steel and boiling breaks down the coating. If you aren’t sure of the quality of your sounds or you don’t have sealed medical packets to sterilize your sounds in, wipe them down with a medical grade cleaner like cavicide. However, you need to make absolutely sure to completely remove and clean the disinfectant off before use as it is harmful to humans and even melts plastics! 

Prepping for Urethral Sounding

Always inspect your sounds for any rust, degradation, cracks or rough spots before use. These cosmetic issues can be a home for bacteria or worse, cut your partner’s intimate parts during play. You definitely don’t want that! Before using my sounds,  I make sure that I have grabbed my lube packets, BZK or alcohol wipes and have wiped down a surface to hold all my things. (Medical trays or tables work well.)
If I haven’t used the boiling method, I will wipe my sounds down with alcohol or BZK if they have not been boiled and I repeat the process with my gloves and the urethra. (Pro tip: BZK doesn’t sting. But make sure to check the expiration date on anything you use, including lube.) Allow time for the solution to dry, this is how most sanitizers kill bacteria and viruses.

Beginning with Urethral Sounding

Urethral sounding is pretty straightforward. You want to match the size of the rod to the hole of the urethra, going larger means it won’t fit and too small runs the risk of scratching or puncturing the wall so it has to be just right. You are better going too large than too small though. By holding the tip of a sound near the opening to the urethra, you can guess the size.
In order to sound someone, you want to lubricate the sound, being careful to not allow the open part of the lube packet or the sound to touch other surfaces and once your sound is out of the sterile packet, you cannot set it down or touch past the handle or outside the center (depending on the type.) Don’t worry, this is the most difficult part.

Allow the Weight of the Urethral Sound to Carry it

Once your sound is lubricated, align it with the urethra and allow the weight of the sound to slowly pull it in while you gently hold the base of the penis to prevent bending (if your partner has one.) Be careful to not lose your grip or let go, as you may end up with the sound completely lost (it is retrievable but you want to avoid this.) Ask if there is ANY discomfort, burning, stretching, poking, if it hurts or feels wrong. Also look for any redness, signs of inflammation (redness or swelling,) and of course, bleeding. If all is good, then you’re good to go. Sometimes folks can have a reaction to the lube so it’s good to have a couple brand choices and/or different batch on hand. Or it may just be too inflammatory for someone that day or entirely. Everyone’s body is different and the worst thing you can do with something delicate is force it to happen. Same with fisting.

Now that your sound is comfortably inside, you can glide it in and out! Feel free to experiment with different shapes and types of sounds. One of my favorite shops is The Chain Gang. They have some great guides and typically offer much higher quality toys than you’ll run into on Amazon or your average BDSM shop as they are a specialty store.
Good luck and have fun!

Still curious? Feel free to contact me!

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Top 5 Questions Everyone asks a Dominatrix

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Have you ever wondered what your Dominatrix’ favorite bdsm activity is? Or how you can be a better a slave? Perhaps the following can point you in the right direction. Below are my 5 most frequently asked questions and my answers. You might find the questions and their answers a bit surprising. Seattle Dominatrix Ruby Enraylls has the answers to your questions and some tips.

What is your favorite thing to do in a session?

It depends on my connection with the person I’m playing with. Having overlapping interests is important. I’m big on bondage, predicaments and power exchange. I really enjoy mind fucks and getting to be creative. I often tend to get really into a theme for a while. A bit ago it was medical then ADBL, chastity roleplay scenarios, prisoner stuff… it’s always something and my specific interests seem to rotate and shift. I enjoy curating an experience for someone.. The more creative the better. I like longer scenes so I can build up ideas and get to know someone, knowing someone over a longer period of time helps with this as well. Nothing can beat intimate knowledge of the inner workings of someone.

What got you into BDSM and the Femdom lifestyle?

Like many of the people I talk to, I have been kinky for as long as I can remember. If you’ve read my about me, I talk about being kinky when I was pretty young, when it was literally just a game. I don’t see anything wrong with that, although many people I’ve spoken to want to find the reason they are into bdsm. This implies to me that it is something to be fixed when I don’t think that’s true. That’s like saying any preference is inherently wrong. It’s my belief that a homogeneous world is pretty dull, among other things.

But I digress. I’ve always had an interest in Bdsm and the very first adult images I found were femdom related. So it seems normal that I would trend that direction, especially considering that I was raised in a female dominant environment.

Are other people into my fetish?

The shortest answer is yes. I’ve played with many, many people and I can tell you with complete confidence that even if someone hasn’t engaged in your particular fetish, there’s definitely an interest. We live in a kinky world. The biggest barrier to entry is unfortunately, shame.

What do you find attractive in a submissive/slave?

The evil variation of this question is “will you go on a date with me” or worse “can I be your live in slave?” Before asking such questions, consider the one posed above and ask yourself “what do I like most about me?” Personally what I like most about my slaves is that they are considerate, kind and respectful. Every person I notice has a willingness to consider the needs and desires of others and makes an effort to do so. It’s often small things that make the biggest impressions.

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What can I do to have the best session with my Domina?

Communicate! Clearly, honestly and respectfully. Sending a long fantasy and play by play isn’t particularly helpful to be completely honest. Writing out a list of yes’s and no’s, hard and soft limits and any specific things you want to try is a great way to start. I prefer to communicate such things at the beginning of the session unless there is something you think I won’t have or something that will need to be prepped for or negotiated. As we get to know each other more, I find that sometimes planning gets a bit more elaborate and more communication before we meet up is necessary or desired.

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How Do I find a Dominatrix near me?

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How do I find a dominatrix?

I am often asked the question “how do I meet a dominatrix?” or “how do I find a dominatrix near me?” Having my location obviously posted, I find these questions a little confusing. Why would someone ask me of all people to help find a Dominatrix near them? I’ve done several YouTube videos, one of which has over 5 million views, so it makes sense to ask me even if I’m just a Seattle Dominatrix.

Why meet a professional Dominatrix anyway?

There are many reasons why you should meet a professional Dominatrix over someone who is purely lifestyle, the number one reason being that we are professionals. Being professional means that:

  • We are highly skilled in the art of BDSM, very accepting and have a lot of experience. As such you are less likely to get hurt and more likely to have a great time.
  • We have awesome dungeons because we’re more invested and our toy collections are very impressive. Why wouldn’t we be the ideal BDSM date?
  • Most importantly.. We are No drama. When the scene ends, we aren’t going to pull a Fatal Attraction on you. We want to keep this arrangement as relaxed and carefree as you do. 

How do I find a dominatrix near me?

Well, that’s why you’re here isn’t it? You have probably taken some missteps along the way, maybe you’ve fallen for a scam. Here is my order of preference to help you meet a dominatrix near you.

  • Use google. Terms like “dominatrix in Seattle”, “local Dominatrix”, “Seattle mistress”, “dominatrix near me” or “seattle dominatrix”. But replace Seattle with your city or state. You will find at least one website.
  • Browse Adult Ads. Sites like Eros or Tryst are great are pretty reputable.
  • Social media alone is Dodgy. Use social media to verify an ad or a website is real. If someone contacts you via social media, they are fake.
  • Do your own research. Research should mean connecting information you find. Make sure an Instagram profile is linked on a website. Check the age of that website on wayback machine to make sure it isn’t a fake of another website. Reverse image search images.
  • Here are some tips. Google the name, number and email you find. What does it pull up? Does it match other information? Is it blank? If it all matches other information, she’s probably legit.

Where do I not find a local Dominatrix?


Catfish love to pretend to be professional mistresses, they frequent the following and will approach you first. Remember, if it seems to go to be true, it probably is.

  • Fetish Dating Sites
  • Social Media (Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, Reddit)
  • Dominatrix Dating Sites
  • Messenger Apps (Snapchat, WhatsApp, Discord, Signal, Telegram)
  • Any Dating Site
  • Kink Specific Apps

A scammer will contact you first from these methods. They will message you a lot and it will seem ideal but there will be some red flags like they will have a payment method that goes to a man or will only take BTC. Use reverse Google image search on the photos they send. Always.
Now that we’ve gotten all of that out of the way..

How do I book a BDSM session with a Dominatrix?


Most Dominatrixes have websites. READ THEM. We have specific contact instructions and screening. Follow our rules and you will be rewarded. Typically we will ask you to contact us via our contact forms or email. Text is for those who know us and have established relationships or for last minute instructions. Calling without being given permission or instruction to do so will annoy us. Doing anything outside of our instructions that is more convenient for you than it is for us will annoy us. Think about how you would make a good impression for a first time job interview, you would not expect the other person to jump through hoops for you. Do not expect a Dominatrix to jump through hoops for you either. Approach with respect and be courteous. You do not have to go overboard but simple things like reading do’s and don’t beforehand can go a long way.

How do I make a good impression?

  • follow all her rules
  • Don’t ask too many questions, particularly if they are already answered on her website.
  • Ask questions that are relevant and present yourself honestly.
  • Understand that time is money for everyone. Approaching a Mistress is all about respect. If your initial approach involves many asks, compensating for that shows that you are going the extra mile to be respectful.
  • Use the right method to contact her. Be it a booking form, professional email or otherwise.

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SPH Hypnosis Clip: Succubus SPH Brainwashing

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Hello, my prey… I bet you’re wondering how I invaded your slumber, but there’s no need to worry about that. Don’t pay that any mind. All you need to do is keep on fantasizing. All you have to do is watch my pendulum. I saw right into your dreams. The dreams in which you’re inferior.
They’re right, you know – your dick is small and you’re not worthy.

You’ll cum before you wake because little pathetic fucks like you always do that. That amuses me greatly and I love abusing that, that’s where I get my power. You probably even came before I got here – that’s what attracted me. You need women like me. Know that your place is beneath the foot of a powerful woman. Your little dick makes you inferior. You’re not even worth my time.

When you jerk off, it shows me that you are less of a man. I hunger to suck your soul. Succubi lure you in with the thought of something more and then snatch your soul. We make you believe there is a chance of something greater. We steal your soul and make it so that every time you get an errection, you think of us.

Your dick is tiny and you are worth nothing.

Your tiny dick makes you inferior to women but that’s OK because all you do is jerk, jerk, jerk. You are going to please me from now on, in any way you can.
Give your soul to me.

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Scheduling System, Rates, Film Days

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New Scheduling System

I’m delighted to announce that I have added a new scheduling system! This system is only available to those who have completed and passed my intake screening form and those who I have seen before whose contact info I recognize. Once you have completed my form, you will get the login to schedule. If your info doesn’t match info I have, you don’t get to book with me. I am strictly only accepting new inquiries through or with the completion of my form.

Rates (Clarification)

Firstly, my contact and rates pages have been combined. If you’ve been watching my advertisements or my lovely dominatrix website lately I’m sure there’s been a little confusion as to what my rates are. Let me first say, sorry for the confusion and here is some clarification-

Balancing face to face time and what an appropriate risk level is during the pandemic has been a little tricky.

I’ve also been surprisingly swamped with inquiries. Fortunately, I’ve found a solution to that problem, if you’ll see the above (new scheduling system.)

During the last year or so I’ve made some incredible improvements to my dungeon, my bdsm equipment and my dungeon furniture. Prior to my pandemic rate change, I hadn’t raised my rates in years. I think that my improvements are astonishing and well worth the price of entry. You will just have to see for yourself.

Now that I have gotten better organization of my calendar and effective time management, I’ve decided to postpone my October raise but add some other offerings. As per usual, keep abreast of my website, I’m always updating it!

Filming Days

I have very much been enjoying filming with other performers, I hope you have enjoyed my work as well! I’ve discussed with several folks about the prospect of filming together so I wanted to make the formal announcement that I’m going to start offering a “filmed session day”. You will be required to sign a standard model release and provide ID so that I can use the footage but you will be rewarded for it.

Film Days available in 4 hour, 6 hour and 8 hour denominations.

Duos and Moresomes

After Sesta/Fosta was announced, I removed mention of all other people from my site. Since I’ve begun filming with other performers I’ve had folks ask about them and I wanted to answer that question: I absolutely do duos. In fact, I love getting to see you and my friends together! If there’s someone you think is fun or cool, ask us!

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Gear Update: Erostek ET312B and Estim 2b

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At long last, another gear update! This time… A shocking one. (So punny..) But seriously, I have added the now discontinued Erostek ET312B and the Estim 2B plus a large collection of addons. Everything from CBT, wartenberg wheels, sounds, probes, butt plugs, clips and more! Are you excited yet?

About the ET312B

Erostek is the king of Estim. Their ET312B has been produced since 1999 and has been beloved by kinksters, reproduced, tinkered with and it is a loss that they are no longer in production. If you have the opportunity to get your hands on one like I did, jump on it. With a little luck they may come back into production in some form but if you’ve wanted one, don’t miss your chance. Erostek offers information and parts for current owners. So they are repairable and reliable.

About the 2B Power Pack

The 2B is the only power unit I have used that compares favorably to the venerable ET312B. The 2B’s smaller form factor makes it a great portable that literally jumps to life when powered by the included AC adapter. 

highly recommend this power unit. Those of you who have been following us know this is the first power unit we’ve ever offered by another manufacturer. The 2B caught me by surprise – in a good way. 

– Erostek.com 

Does this mean the 2B is the new king on the electro scene? You’ll have to be the judge.

Comment and tell me what your favorite estim power box and/or attachments are!

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Where can I buy Aroma and Poppers Videos?

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If you use Iwantclips frequently, you may have noticed that a lot of content has recently vanished. Specifically Poppers aka Aroma content. If you are a fan of such content, that sucks! Never fear, there are always options for fulfilling your fetish.

Iwantclips has become a major player in POV Femdom videos but in recent times it appears that they have come under fire with regard to credit card processing rules. (If you remember what happened with hypnosis content, it’s much the same.) Fortunately, there are a multitude of other sites that you can browse. For my content, I typically update all of my clips stores on friday. I am currently migrating all of my aroma clips to Clips4Sale, Manyvids and Niteflirt.

As always, you are welcome to make custom requests, I delight in creating mind warping content. Short of that, you can expect to continue to create Aroma videos but they just may take a little more effort for you to acquire.

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Dungeon Furniture Upgrades Incoming!

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As per my dungeon page, I am always upgrading my space and my gear. My latest acquisitions have trended towards the… Niche. Curious about what is incoming? I’m looking forward to the testing and set up! Below are some teaser images! You’re going to have to wait to see them in action. (Are you excited? You should be!)

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Earn Your Orgasm – JOI Game with Consequences

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You are always such a good plaything, so pliable and obedient. I’m going to tease you to your breaking point to make you more obedient and most importantly, get you to confess your darkest fantasies. If you can’t do that then you’re going to be locked in chastity until you’re willing to tell me all your dirty little secrets.

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