Kink as Grief & Life Processing

Ruby Available Light and Dungeon

For when a traditional therapist doesn’t cut it…

Not everyone is normal. Okay, no one is normal and that’s okay. I’m here for you and I’m happy to help you through your darkest of times. I’ve been there too and I know how difficult it can be to explain to someone who hasn’t been. Sometimes it takes a deep plunge into the darkness to reset and get back into the normal swing of things and you can’t do that yourself, lest you go too far or lose control. Put yourself in my hands for a little while and let me guide through the darkness. We’ll walk those fine lines together and I’ll plunge down there with you. Let’s find the way out together, rather than me give you instructions for you to fumble your way alone.

To get some things straight, I am not a therapist and I am not a counselor. I am a dominatrix. I will not be those things for you but I will help you get to a place where you can talk about your problems by unlocking different parts of your trauma. Think of this as a life coach meets a BDSM dungeon experience. It’s kind of like running a marathon emotionally while being spanked to tears at just the right pace to unlock just the right memory about your mom and dad that kept you from pursuing your childhood dream. I’ll fuck with you and you’ll be better for it.

At some point you’ll beg me to stop but you won’t mean it. Then, you’ll beg me for more than you can handle and I’ll say no. You’ll hate me, you will adore me, you will fall in love with me and I will be your best friend and your worst nightmare all wrapped up in one. Somehow the balance will stay in perfect equilibrium as long as you stay relaxed and keep trying to grow, get better and believe that things will be okay. It will be difficult but the fact that you’re reading this means that some part of you is already on board for this venture. Some part of you needs a change because something isn’t okay, deep down and you need someone to shake things up. I am that someone and I’ll shatter all those long-broken pieces of you into a million different fragments then help you put them back together in a beautiful new arrangement.

Think you can handle that?

I bet you can.